Want to free a friend from his ‘6 meal’ habit?

It’s funny, nearly everyone that finishes up says the same thing.

“Thanks for everything Andy. I will definitely recommend you to any of my friends who believe this works…..most will not break from the 6 small meals per day….when I tell them about LG they look at me as if I’m crazy.”

. But really though other people’s diet habits shouldn’t concern you. Two meals, six meals, breakfast skipper or not, it really doesn’t matter as long as people are happy.

Sometimes though you see that your friend has made a full-time job of eating and training, can’t come out for dinner or a beer and you just want to shake them. You know deep-down that they aren’t happy with the time-investment/reward ratio and you care about them, right?

So what did you do? Did you try preaching to them? No. It won’t work and no one likes that.

Are you physically smaller and therefore (in their minds) obviously know less and thus get ignored? There are a lot of well-meaning people in this situation also.

I’ve thought long and hard about this. Chris Brogan in his book “Trust Agents” talks about the power of a voice when we perceive that person to be “one of us.” -Meaning that words impact us more when they come from someone we think are like us. This is why I include the stories of so many different people on that results page. – The more there are; the more the likelihood that the story of one of those clients will resonate with a friend of ours.

Probably the best way to help your friend is to just point them in the right direction and hope they will read.

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The next post I’ll help you with the “bigger friend” scenario with a client story of a bodybuilder called Phil. I’ll have that up in a couple of days, followed by a few more stories to the results page, before resuming with a couple of ‘guide’ posts.

If you have a friend that’s more turned on by science than testimonials then two of my favourite places to link friends to are: “Top Ten Fasting Myths Debunked” and “Alan Aragon’s Research Review“.

Hope you’re having a good summer. -Andy.

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11 Comments

  1. Richard Fletcher says:

    Recently I moved back in with my parents after my relationship broke down. Now that they see the amount of meat I eat each day, I get constant interrogation on my diet ‘all that food can’t be healthy for you’ and ‘what about protein overload’, ‘what about the extra work it puts on your digestive system’?

    Although I try to explain the reasons why these comments are unfounded, I tend to find that once a person has a set viewpoint, no amount of logic to the counter will change their mind. Hence…it’s not really worth trying unless they demonstrate an open mind to begin with.

    There seems to be something bizarre in that I’m the leanest and most muscular of all my family – yet perceived to be the least healthy. How the hell can that be right!!?

    Have you ever had similar issues with your close friends/family?

    1. Andy Morgan says:

      Haven’t lived at home for any period of time since I was 18. Everyone is different though. My parents read this blog so it’s not an issue for me and friends, well, they can say what they like as I have nothing to prove anymore. I don’t tend to get resistance though as I never really bother to argue the point with anyone or try and push things on people.

  2. LouisXIV says:

    I train clients in NYC. No matter how I have told people they can do it themselves (and these are highly successful, motivated humans in life), almost all say they would not do it—they need a trainer for accountability. Proof that things that are simple in design are not always easy to implement. The other thing is that many trainers themselves do not follow their own good advice. Again, simple is not easy.

    1. Andy Morgan says:

      Yeah, I think Chris nailed this in the comment above.

  3. This is an insightful post. Social pressure and the desire to fit in with the crowd are big pressures. There is another side to this social/psychological thing though which is to do with the value of a coach. One of the reasons I became a client was to give myself some accountability. There is some research on the whole placebo thing that there is massive value in the client/ coach relationship in that if the client trusts the coach then there is more chance of success. There is social pressure but you can create your own through identifying with a new community.

    1. Andy Morgan says:

      It’s true Chris, and that’s what I try and feel-out when someone writes to me in those first few correspondences. If they don’t trust me then it won’t work and I try and suggest them helpful sources elsewhere.

  4. petermonaco says:

    Thanks for what you do here. It’s tough work breaking the 6 meal habit. I moved my wife away from it more recently after experiencing great success with the Leangains method myself. Her results followed quickly, much to the chagrin of my “but breakfast is the most important meal” brother.

  5. LouisXIV says:

    I love the method recommended here as it makes sense on numerous levels and can be applied to getting bigger. I get asked all the time at parties how to train and eat and the methods discussed here, and similarly elsewhere, are the ones I recommend. Why? They are the ones that make the most sense, generally work the best, and are the easiest to sustain over time.

    Now, I do see a lot of small guys getting smaller in general (though the Starting Strength crew would be exceptions). I see this as more to do with the dominant fixation on getting an ever shredded body more than any particular dietary approach. And in fact there are many guys who should not be ion cutting diets, in my view.

    But to each his own. This method—the training and the diet—is downright liberating and nobody is ignoring me when I tell them that unless they are competitive bodybuilders or powerlifters. In fact, most seem to agree the recommendations make sense and are efficient.

    1. Andy Morgan says:

      You’re right, trying to convince people that they need to get a lot stronger before considering a full cut is one of the hardest parts of the job, as nearly everyone overestimates how muscled they will look when shredded at their current lean body mass.

      1. JW says:

        Does this mean I can eat more? 😉

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